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Blind & Thriving

Here at ECBC we believe it is vital for every single person to be able to share their experiences living with a mental illness (if they choose to, no one should feel they have to).

Introducing Jenni Dunlap, a lifestyle blogger and mother of two, who is Legally Blind and shares her experience of life and motherhood.


I was born with Retinitis Pigmentosa, and I am more than my disability. At the same time, it has given me a strength I never knew I had and helped me grow into the woman I am today. It’s an odd binary, but it’s my life and I probably wouldn’t change it. Not only do I have RP, I also have macular degeneration. It has changed the way I live and operate as well as the way I mother my kids and run my household. It’s been an incredible adventure so far, and it hasn’t held me back yet.

I have to work around certain everyday aspects like driving and cooking. I have to find ways to do what the sighted do, and it’s a challenge I’ve enjoyed accepting. That doesn’t mean I haven’t broken down in tears when things have been difficult. There are limitations when you’re blind, but if I can’t do something, I find something else to excel at. I have never been able to drive. I do have a cane, magnifiers and bifocals, and occasionally use text to speech. I went through mobility training and learned how to do everyday tasks like a sighted person, but it’s a continued learning experience.


“I’ve always wanted a mom blog to succeed, and now that I’m knee deep in the mom life, I’m ready to share my housewife hustle.”

I’ve had a few minor surgeries like cataract removal, and I’ve seen specialists since I was a teenager. My eyes aren’t the worst in world, and I try to never dwell in on having a disability.

Unlike the majority of my family members with RP, I started losing a lot of vision in my teens and early 20s. They lost most of theirs in their 30s and 40s. I had a difficult time accepting that I wouldn’t drive, but I was very involved in college when it came to disability panels and activism. It helped me cope.

What I see can be best described as seeing through a straw, but at the end of the straw, everything looks muddled like looking through broken glass. I have no peripheral vision left and am losing some colors. I’m completely blind in dim lighting and night. My right eye doesn’t see much and only picks up some shadows and light perception, but I still have my left eye.

Because I’ve had years of training and moved out at 18, I did everything I could to adjust and maneuver like a sighted person. I worked a few jobs in high school and college and tried to blend in. I only used my cane on rainy days when the clouds hid the majority of light and at night time.

Not “looking” blind was important for me because I was bullied a lot growing up. College helped me get over caring about the awful people in the world though. I do still hear that I don’t “look” blind and people think I’m lying. I did have fog removed from my eyes and the cataract surgery helped them appear clear as well.

The most difficult questions and ridicule come from people hearing I have toddlers. I get a lot of attitude about how do I handle taking care of my kids and if it’s safe for me to stay at home alone with them. I used to get so offended and hurt by questions that insinuated that I was a poor mother because of my sight. Now, I just laugh.

I do things differently because of my blindness, but it doesn’t hinder my abilities the way people think. The most difficult thing is not being able to get in a vehicle and drive my kids to the park or store, but me and my husband are a good team and manage this pretty well. There are ups and downs to being a legally blind mom, but it makes me who I am.


The Ups

More Patience. Not being able to see means I have to do things slower sometimes. It has really helped me to learn some much needed patience. If I try to do things in a hurry, I spill something or some type of pandemonium could ensure. I keep a good pace and having a tight schedule helps.

Hands On. This is an up and down. Yeah, I have gross things on my hands from time to time, but there’s a plus side. Because I use my hands as eyes sometimes, I get to reach down and feel my kids playing. I get to feel those moments that sighted people see. If my kids have an issue or want to talk, they stand close and hold my hand or sit in my lap. It helps feel what they are feeling in a way. If my son is having a dramatic moment, he will place his hands on the sides of my face and say “mom, this is big!” It helps my kids become more expressive and animated.

Helping Hands. My toddlers are great at picking up after themselves, most of the time. When they see me fold laundry, cleaning, or getting food ready, they want to help. They want to be hands on like mommy. It’s endearing and helping with their development at the same time.

Early Awareness. If my kids see a person with a cane, wheel chair, or guide, they already have some grasp on disabilities. The more education and awareness, the better the understanding. More understanding hopefully leads to less bullying. My eyes have made it easier for my toddlers to understand not everyone is the same. It’s been like a learning tool.

Stronger Senses. I can hear if my cat sneezes in the basement on the other side of the house. Not having the best eye sight has allowed my hearing and touch to excel. My kids don’t get much past me. I can play hide and seek just like a sighted mom.

Better Communication. Because I can’t see people nod or shake their head, we’ve learned to be a very vocal family. As soon as my son learned to speak, he started telling me things he saw and what was going on around him. He loves to explain things to me that I can’t see. He’s also likes to help find movies and shows on TV. He’s learning to recognize words to help me if the font is too small. I wouldn’t say my 3 year old can read, but he’s on his way.

Being blind has been a challenge, but it has never wavered my confidence as a mother. I just have a different system of how I operate in my home. I know I will get questions for the rest of my life.

I know people will say things like “you don’t seem blind,” or that they understand because they have bad vision too when really, a good pair of glasses gives them the freedom to drive and see things I couldn’t even imagine. It’s not about comparing ourselves to each other, because every journey is different and everyone has struggles.

I try not to let the little annoyances get to me. I still have people wave their hand in front of my face or ask if I can see how many fingers they are holding up. At the end of the day, I like who I am, and my vision has helped shaped me into the mother that I am. I know there are mothers with worse disabilities and conditions. I applaud those women as well as all hard working mothers who do their best for their children.

Staying Mentally Strong

I’d be lying if I said I never struggled with mental health. I’ve had a lot of issues from eating disorders to anxiety, and I will admit my eyes and blindness played major roles in my mental health. It’s been difficult, but once I realized that my eyes have given me so much stretch, then I try to find the positive.

There’s a list I could dwell on, but that isn’t living. I want to live, smile, and surround myself with good vibes. Whether I have a disability or not, I deserve happiness just as much as the next person. I’m a big advocate of talking and seeing a therapist when mental health is a factor. I’ve even had to stay at a hospital when I was at my lowest point with bulimia. It was struggle accepting a body I couldn’t see, but with time and support, I learned that my low vision wasn’t the enemy.

Being blind hasn’t just taken away experiences, it’s given me so much too. I’ve had to fight for so much in my life, and I accomplished a lot because I knew I was capable. My eyes used to be an excuse, but now, they are a reason- a reason to keep chasing my dreams and proving people wrong.

You can follow Jenni’s blog online and get up-to-date news from her social media.

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