On average we will spend 92,120 hours during our lifetime at our workplace. That’s 39.2 hours a week, 1842 hours a year – which will only get longer as, at this rate, most of us will be working until we’re 90.
So why do we stay in jobs that do not make us happy?
This comes down to the fact we do not value ourselves highly enough to be happy in a job we deserve. We get up everyday, wishing the day to already be over and then force ourselves to go into work.
This is not a way to live.
One lesson I have learnt from my mental illness is that I can’t cure it, but I can change my environment and those around me to help with my recovery. Most importantly, where I spend most of my time – my workplace. If you are not receiving the support or empathy for your mental illness, then that job is not worth your time and energy.
At the age of 25 I have worked 15 different jobs. Some I had to leave because of relocating or further education, but some I chose to leave because they simply weren’t right for me and didn’t make me happy. And that’s okay.
Life is too short to wait around for a job to get better or to tell yourself you’ll give it a few months… I am a millennial snowflake, loud and proud, and if that means by the time I’m 30 I’ll have worked 30 jobs because nothing has suited me yet.. well who gives a shit. It’s my life.
Here’s some I’ve done so far:
Wobbly Waitress
I have had 5 different types of table service jobs and every single one of them have taught me that I was not meant to be a waitress. To every single waitress/waiter out there – you are my hero. I always make sure to leave a tip because I know the stress of the job.
My first job was at a small cafe and I lasted 3 weeks before I was made ‘redundant’. (How you can be made redundant at 15 is beyond me) Since then I have worked at a garden centre cafe, a national trust cafe, a waitress at a posh restaurant and a silver service job at a big event (I spilt gravy on a lady and it was a truly awful time. I cried in the car with my dad afterwards and didn’t turn up to my other shifts).
Pro: Extra money from tips from generous customers
Con: The plates they expect you to hold with a thin tea towel are hot
Checkout Assistant (BEEP)
I have been a checkout assistant at 3 different supermarkets. Yes. That’s right. I really can help you compare prices because I seen them all bitch.
I have had a man screaming at me because I wouldn’t serve him booze without ID and cried because he threatened to ‘jump me’ once I left the store at 11pm….. safe to say I didn’t go back after that shift. (There’s a pattern here isn’t there?)
Pro: On Friday night shifts there was a bunch of us who cleaned up after close and we sang and danced with mops.
Con: Beep. Beep. BEEP.
Retail
During university another job I did for a few months was work at a department store in a clothes section for old ladies. It was the most boring job I have ever done. There were no customers (because the lift was always broken and our main clientele couldn’t get up the stairs) and all the women on the floor hated me because I was younger than 25.
Retail is such a hard job and people are often treated like dirt because they are on the other side of the counter. It has made me realise that people WILL kick off over the little things – you think it’s not possible, but it is.
Pro: There were no customers.
Con: There were no customers.
Office gal
Turns out life in an office isn’t like all those American movies where all the women look flawless, are successful in their roles but just have that one thing missing from their lives (Hint: it’s a penis).
I enjoyed working in an office as it was a social environment and my first office job as an apprentice was something that shaped my work values and helped me gain confidence I never knew I had. I am eternally grateful to those colleagues and managers as I always base my work decisions on how supported I felt during this time. Sadly the company was made redundant so I was unable to go back to this job after university. Things happen for a reason and this led me to education.
Pro: You get to drink so much tea and coffee for free.
Con: Sitting down all day at a computer can have a serious negative effect on your mental and physical health.
Teaching and support
Which leads us to my final role and to date. I bloody love education, I’ve been out of it for 2 years now and it’s been a very long 2 years. I have decided to start in a lower position than I am qualified for as I believe this will allow me to grow at my own pace and gain confidence I have lost. I hope to work my way up and get back to teaching in the next 2 years or so. But nothing is set in stone.
Pro: Long holidays and breaks
Con: Everyone thinks you have lots of long holidays and breaks but in fact you just sleep during them to recover from the hectic terms.
So here’s to the future!
Join me brothers and sisters, for we deserve to be treated with respect and to be happy in our workplace. It doesn’t matter what level you are we all deserve to be treated equally, no matter our race, religion, sexuality, gender or disability.
Let’s start a hashtag on twitter with #ideserve and then enter what you think you deserve.
I deserve to be happy.
I deserve to enjoy my job.
I deserve to kick the shit out of my mental illness.
Keep fighting
Love, Emma x
Good luck! I needed this because I’m finally going into a uni path that I want to take and seeing where it goes. It’s exciting!
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This was a really inspirational post. You go! Keep up the good work. 🙂
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This was wonderful to read, you are so right! I stayed in a job I absolutely hated because 1. I got comfortable, and 2. money but it made me so ill physically and mentally that in the end I had to leave but my god am I glad I left! You’re totally right, we shouldn’t just take a job and stay in for the rest of our lives because it’s a job we should enjoy what we do! Great post.
Chloe xx
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I love my current job but the one before this was awful. I had no problem putting in my 2 weeks at that place! You have to be willing to change jobs for growth though, even if you love them. I know that I will leave my current position in the future. It makes me sad and a little scared but I know that it is something I must eventually do. I hope you have found your path with teaching and that it is good for you.
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I really enjoyed reading this. I’ve had one job in my life – a civil engineer. I loved the work itself but not the work environment or the gender politics. It was toxic and soul-crushing. So I just quit and decided make my own path :).
xoxo Ros (ZenHealth.net)
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This is a really inspirational post. I currently work in clothing retail where a lot of customers are older ladies and although it is an okay job, it’s not something I love and enjoy. I really want to do more and this post has reminded me that I can do more and be more and I shouldn’t settle for a job that I’m not happy in. Like you said, life is too short to be doing something I don’t enjoy. I need to look into finding my own path in life that I can be happy in and love everyday. It will make life a lot more worthwhile too.
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This was a super interesting post! I often think about the horrible “overwork” culture that we live in and you talked about really important aspects of how it’s negative.
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You are so right. Life is too short to be stuck in a job you don’t like or doesn’t make you happy. I know this post will be an inspiration to others who are not happy in their job.
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I honestly can relate. I used to be a journalist for a decade before I moved to a new city to start a family. And Ive had 4 jobs in a span of 3 years. I couldn’t seem to find a new one that can sustain my livelihood and happiness at the same time.
Hope u can check out my latest blog as it tells why I quit my most recent one. https://rioribaya.wordpress.com/2018/11/06/how-pregnancy-brain-affected-my-work/
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I liked that you used the word “recovery” because that’s what overcoming mental illness is. I also love that you don’t give up. As someone in the mental health field, I’m a firm believer in recovery from mental illness. You just made my day!
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Wow, you worked 25 jobs already!! I am trying to quit my current job, I love the kids but hate the system. I want freedom, I don’t want rules anymore. I want to be my own boss. But, I need a visa and need an income to help support that visa. (I am an American living in Japan),
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This was a great motivational and inspirational posts. All so very true, we all deserve to be happy our jobs. Thanks so much for sharing😊
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This was like reading about my life! I was in a shit job and used to cry on my way to work. I knew there had to be more to life! A very refreshing read!
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Girl….I have been where you are and may still be! Lol
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Finding a job you love is SO important, as you spend, like you say, so much of your life there. Luckily, I really enjoy my job. Hope you find something that works for you soon.
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Oh man I worked retail in high school and swore never to go back, it’s such a soul sucking job! I’am glad you have found a field that you currently enjoy, your right. Life is far to short to slave away in jobs we hate!
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Your job is literally where you spend the majority of the time, so important to enjoy it! I really enjoyed reading this, thank you for sharing your experiences x
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I love this post! Go you for doing what is best x
-Charlotte / myownblogofthoughts.blogspot.com
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Such an important message in this post. I actually have a post over on my blog about the impact of toxic jobs and I’d really love it if you’d check it out. I’m at http://www.madewithlove99.wordpress.com 🙂
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I feel this post! At the start of this year I left my old job b/c I wanted a change and I’ve spent the last 11 months with zero stability on the job front but I’ve really love it. I’m back working in an office for winter and one of the only things that keeps me going is that come next summer the contract will be over. People assume that everyone that works in an office loves the idea of being in one, but it isn’t for all of us. The mental and physical health challenges are very intense and often overlooked as people think you ‘should be grateful’ for a ‘regular 9-5’ job! I loved reading this post x
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It’s definitely important to have a job that you enjoy! This is a great post, it’s interesting to see other people’s experiences
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Cheers to that!! I loved everything about this post. Why be stuck somewhere you don’t want to be. This reminds me of when I was working retail, slaving on my feet for 9 hours to a manager who gave no f’s about it. I’m soooo glad I’m working in my field now!!🙏🏾🙏🏾
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Leaving something comfortable out of fear is insanely hard to do. Good for you for being able to give yourself what you deserve! It’s a good reminder for all of us.
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LOVE this post, really inspirational. You do deserve to be happy, you do you, girl! 🙂
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