When you’re struggling with mental illness it’s easy to feel completely overwhelmed by the simplest things. Everyday tasks seem insurmountable and we end up feeling helpless, useless, and surrounded by chaos. Getting back on top of those runaway trains of thought and feeling can seem impossible, but sometimes a small change can make a big difference. Inspired by Queer Eye (which, by the way, is the feel good show that everyone needs in their life), this blog series will be made up of posts focusing on small things you can do in the areas of space, food, grooming, fashion, and culture, that could make a big difference by helping you feel more in control, or give you a sense of achievement.
Today, I’m channeling Tan and thinking about the little things that can make a big difference to how you feel in what you wear: specifically, how to feel fierce by using accessories!
The Divine Is In The Detail
What we wear is how we express ourselves to the world. It gives passersby a glimpse of who we are and our nearest and dearest know our style loves as hates as part of our personalities. But some days the thought of putting together an outfit is just too much. You stare at your wardrobe trying to summon the will, the energy to find something that looks good and feels good and says something about you…and…just…no. Somedays you feel like nothing looks good. Sometimes your favourite outfit makes you feel like fraud because it feels like the person you wish you were rather than the messy person you currently feel you are. Sometimes you can’t even make it to the wardrobe.
Today I want to offer you some suggestions for making your wardrobe work, even on those bad days – ways which will, hopefully, lift your spirits a little when even getting dressed is just too much.
- Find some funky socks! Socks are one of my favourite accessories because, even though they are hidden from the world most of the time, I love knowing that I’m walking around with my feet cosied away in something that makes me smile. Whether they declare your Hogwarts house, are covered in flamingos, or depict a sophisticated fox in a top hat and monocle (a personal favourite pair) exciting socks are a great accessory which have the bonus of keeping your feet cosy.
- Wrap yourself in sumptuous scarves! I loooove a good scarf. For me, scarves are more than an accessory – they act as a comfort blanket for me. When I’m feeling particularly anxious or panicky, I tend to also feel vulnerable. One of the ways I combat this is by layering up with jumpers or cardigans and wrapping up in a blanket, when I’m at home – when I’m not at home, a scarf is an excellent, portable blanket alternative! AND there are so many awesome ones! My favourite scarf is printed to look like the Marauder’s Map from Harry Potter and it makes me smile every time I wear it.
- Work your pin game! Enamel pins are a recently developed passion of mine and I have quite a growing collection. I love to pin them to my bag, on the lapel of my jacket or coat, my staff badge lanyard – basically anywhere! I also have a pennant flag hung above my desk at work where my collection is pinned when I’m not wearing them. I rotate the one’s I’m wearing according to my mood and basically have a lot of fun with them. Choosing a pin to wear is so much a part of my routine now that I put them on even if I’m not leaving the house – they really do lift my mood and it’s always exciting when I find a new design (especially if it’s a bargain) to add to my collection.
So there you have it, three simple ways to have some fun with what you wear, that will hopefully help if you find yourself in a wardrobe rut or are going through a phase where putting together a whole outfit is too much.
Top Tip: Find one thing to wear/carry/accessorise with that you really love and which helps you feel good. That way you know you’ll always have something in your wardrobe which you enjoy wearing – even if it’s used to accessorise pyjamas!
Which accessory, item of clothing or even whole outfit always makes you feel good?